We have a family in our church that is going through a very difficult time. Without getting into specifics, I will simply say that there was public sin involved and while there has been repentance, there is still much to be worked through. Because of the public nature of the sin, it has placed a burden on our church as we collectively and individually work through these issues.
Through this difficult time, our elder is consistently reminding us that, while God didn’t want the sin to occur, He is using it to further develop the character of Christ in our lives. I believe the phrase he used it that “God is multidimensional” enough to use these events in all of our lives to His glory. Our duty, then, is to agree with God and work with Him to achieve His ends. But what are God’s ends?
Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. ~ Galatians 6:1-2
And what is the law of Christ? Christ’s command was for us to love one another (John 13:34, 35 & 15:12). I was reminded as we discussed these issues recently of the passage in I Corinthians 13 dealing with love. I was amazed at how well it ties in with dealing with someone who has offended us through sin.
(Love) Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. ~ I Corinthians 13:7
Beareth all things- When we are offended, our tendency is to become, well, offended. In our sinful nature, we want to hold a grudge. But in doing so, we allow bitterness into our lives and place more than ourselves in danger (Hebrews 12:15). We must maintain a spirit of forgiveness and not hold onto offenses. The Greek word translated beareth means to protect something by covering. This is not to say we should cover sin, but we need to cover over any offended feeling in our hearts and forgive, even before we are asked.
Believeth all things - Satan wants us to think the worst of each other. When someone repents, especially someone who has offended us, our sinful nature drives us to doubt the sincerity of their repentance. I suspect this has a lot to do with the nature of our own hearts and lives, we doubt others because we ourselves have a lack of sincerity in our lives. However, true love believes the other person. When we have been offended and the offender repents and asks our forgiveness, we should believe their request is sincere. The Greek word believeth means to put trust in. We should place trust in God’s working in the other person’s life and in their sincerity.
Hopeth all things - Hope in the sense here, and as it is often used in the scriptures is not anxious and nervous concern that what we want to happen might not happen. Hope in this sense is a confidence of what will happen. We have a “hope of eternal life” (Titus 1:2), and the verse says that God promised it and He “cannot lie”. This hope as it relates to the one who has offended us means that we have a confidence that through God’s working they will be able to overcome and be restored. Restoration is not instant, nor is it always easy. However, God’s desire is that the offender be restored (Galatians 6:1). We, likewise should have hope (confidence) in God’s ability to work.
Endureth all things – When someone offends us and repents and is trying, with God’s help, to forsake the sin that created the offense, sometimes they will fall. When that happens, we need to endure in our loving response. That means we need to bear the offense, believe them when they repent, hope in God’s redemption and restoration. God even tells us how long we should do this (Matthew 18:22 – although I think the word endure is pretty clear). Personally, I don’t think God intended for us to have an accounting ledger keeping track of how often individuals offend us. Rather the implication of the verse is that we simply continue forgiving whenever we are asked. With repeated offenses, restoration may require more, but forgiveness should always be granted.
When we are offended, our duty is to be forgiving. Christ teaches that if we are unwilling to forgive others that we will likewise not be forgiven of God (Matthew 6:14-15). We are to love those who offend us. This is difficult, but is necessary. Remember Christ, whose image we are trying to conform to, forgave the very men who were crucifying Him. How much more should we forgive those who offend us. Christ loved those who were crucifying Him; He loved them enough that He died for them also. How much more should we show love to those who have offended us.
I Corinthians describes a church full of cliquish, unrepentant, better-than-thou people. The book begins with Paul correcting them regarding the cliques. Later, he addresses the open flagrant sin in their midst. Even later, he teaches on spiritual gifts that the people were trying to use to “one-up” each other. In the midst of this, there would have been plenty of room for offense. Paul leads into his description of God’s love that should be evident in our life by saying, “… and yet shew I unto you a more excellent way.” (I Corinthians 12:31)
Our lives should be evidence of the “more excellent” way of Christ, especially toward those who have offended us.
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